Love

Many a times I have asked myself what exactly Love is?

Recently the penny dropped for me...

Love is Just Being…

It is not a concept, has no boundaries, and has no definition.

When you can look at other creations of life and admire their beauty and them without any judgment and expectation is ‘What Love is...’

Love is when you enjoy being yourself…

Love is when you feel liberated yet bounded with other people…

Love is that tiny spark in you which makes you smile at ALL THAT IS…

All this is Love for me

What it means for you???

Thoughts

When we are going through an issue it becomes so big in our head that our mind starts controlling us. I have always maintained mind is part of us; we are not part of our minds. Let us understand how we can become in charge of mind.

When we are born, we are an empty vessel. With our experiences of life we start filling it up. Now this vessel like any other vessel has a capacity to hold. For example you have a jug that can hold one liter of liquid. It is in your hands now what would you like to fill this jug with. You may decide to fill it with water, refreshing lemon drink, rejuvenating juice, alcohol etc… But you can only fill it up to a level. And to put any other liquid than the current one you have to first empty the jug, cleanse it and then pour the next choice of drink. Choices are umpteen and you are the decision maker.

Likewise your mind is that jug and you are the owner of that jug. What would you like to fill it up with? You can either fill it with positive thoughts or negative ones. Just as the jug has to be first emptied to put in the next batch of liquid, similarly we need to clear our thoughts and empty ourselves for the new experiences and thoughts. If we are still stuck in the past experiences, negative or positive, how do we expect to make the new ones?

We clean our body, our homes on a daily basis. Do we ever look at doing a deep cleansing, Cleansing of our thoughts, of our minds.

There are many ways to clear the clutter of mind… The simplest and the most difficult (as people say) is Meditation.

Meditation brings in the much needed calm and clarity in our minds. It helps us realize what exactly we want from ourselves…

To reach to meditative level, we need to first work on our breath. Pranayama is the first step towards meditation. Also it is a good practice to decide on a particular time and sit for 10 minutes every day so that we first train our minds. Mind needs consistency in order to perform. If we are consistent with our practice, mind automatically begins to relax and prepares itself for the practice.

First step towards it is 'Equal Breathing'. Either sit in a meditative posture or lie down in shavasana. Make sure that your body is in alignment and neck and spine is in one line. If you are in shavasana both sides of the body is equally distributed and there is one and half feet distance between both legs.

Make necessary adjustments and concentrate either on your heart centre or Eyebrow centre. When you concentrate on heart centre you are bringing more compassion in life(surrendering to the divine); if you are concentrating on eye brow centre then you are bringing in focus and clarity in thoughts (being an observer and witnessing).

Now be aware of your breath, after few breaths when you feel comfortable breathe deeply all the way to your stomach for 7 times. The right way of breathing in is that your stomach will extend out like a balloon fills up, and while breathing out stomach will go inwards towards the spine. Now start equalizing your breath. Start inhaling and exhaling for equal counts, so for example if you breathe in for 3 counts,you will breathe out for the similar count i.e. 3 counts. Do 10 rounds of inhalation and exhalation, this one set of pranayama of equal breathing. Do 3 such sets of Equal Breathing. After a fortnight of practice increase the length of inhalation and exhalation to 4 counts.

This will strengthen your lungs, dispel stale air trapped in lungs and also it will bring in the calmness. And prepare you for meditation.

It is a good practice for those who have insomnia. Before going off to sleep you can practice this to have a better quality of sleep.

If you wish to know more you may either post the query here on this page itself or mail me…

Drop the judgment

Always remember when you criticize something or someone you are actually criticize a part of your own being as you will only recognize that part of the other which resonates with you energetically.

To understand this in a simple language, Say you speak German and the person you are interacting with speaks French. Would you be able to understand what the other saying?

No, Right!!

Similarly your energy structure has a language and it will only recognize what it speaks within. So whenever you have a negative emotion coming up for someone, look within where it is arising from? Which parts of you, you don’t accept? Which part of you feels jealous/ upset/ irritated/ angry with the other?

If you feel jealous of the other does it mean that you don’t have enough? Or does it mean Life is not fair to you? Does it make you sad/ upset?

If you feel angry with the other then what exactly made you angry? Remember anger is not an emotion by itself it is an after effect of deep hurt. Which part of you got so hurt that it resulted in an outburst? What made you hurt?

Reflect on your behavior by the end of the day.

Did it go the way you planned it to be?

Were you able to keep yourself positive and upbeat through the day?

If not, then what made you upset? Which part of you didn’t feel, complete and fulfilled? Stay with the thought and you will start understanding your deeper emotions slowly.

Ask and you will receive

"Ask and you will receive" JESUS

How many of us understood what it meant. I didn’t. I always believed why I need to tell him what I wish to have in my life, or what I desire in life.
This belief came crumbling down when I started understanding 'The Law of attraction"

How on this earth was I going to get what I wish to have in my life when deep down in me I always felt ‘I don't deserve it.’

If my core belief was of undeserving then my energy structure also gave similar signals. I would feel uncomfortable asking for money. My fee which was rightfully mine, I spent time with my clients, my valuable time that I could have spent with my child, family. It was an issue to charge for my sessions as I felt undeserving, and other people’s needs were more important than mine.

Whenever you ask for something and it has not been given to you, look within. Do you really have conviction of what you are asking for; are you absolutely worthy of getting it? 
What is your belief system related to it?

Is earning money an issue? 
Money brings in responsibilities. Money takes away humility. Money brings in power and many can't handle that power. 
All these are belief systems that we have been carrying for long, either we saw something we didn't like and our subconscious registered or we had our own experiences which created these beliefs in us.

Does a relationship mean a burden, deep within? Does a relationship mean that you will lose your identity? Or you will not have your freedom with you? Would you feel obliged to look at other person’s need over yours?

What is it that is your core belief related to that particular issue you are facing at the moment?

If you can identify it, with awareness you can bring in the shift in your perception and look at it in a new light. Once your perception has shifted, you can bring in the much needed change in your reality as well. Your energy structure will now start vibrating at a level where you can attract whatever you wish to. Once there is an alignment between your core belief and what you are asking for, it shall be given to you. When you are giving out mixed signals even the DIVINE is confused what to give you. And mostly HE will give you is what your energy structure is vibrating at, what you believe at core level.

Love yourself first in order to love others

Most of us have grown up thinking and believing it is too selfish to think of oneself before others. Here I am saying otherwise. 

What does it mean? 

How could I possibly say that when our culture, our society teaches us to be selfless?

Our decision are based on several factors, starting from our family, to the cultural values, appreciation by society

I grew up with a feeling of being insufficient, incompetent. I have been working on it for a while now; sometimes it still gets on my new way of thinking. Earlier, it was really difficult for me to say no to others or even express it to people that I have some other work to do. It all came from my inability to prioritize myself and my things.

I always felt the other person’s work is more important than mine. My work can be done later. How can I be so rude and tell them that I won’t be able to attend them at the moment as I am busy attending myself.

When you look at it minutely I had people pleasing personality. I wanted them to like me, love me, accept me. What a dichotomy!!! On one hand I was neglecting, rejecting myself & my needs; on the other hand I was expecting others to accept me J

Why would I do that?? What made me neglect my own self?

It all came from a feeling that I am not good enough, if I am not good enough I have to that extra mile to make up for that lesser me.

We are taught right from the beginning that we are worthy and accepted only if we fulfill the norms created by our culture and society. Our worth is decided by the money, power, attractiveness, status, sex, relationships.

If we connect our self worth on these external factors we will never feel complete or worthy enough. The critic in us will keep us engaged in thoughts such as “I am not enough, I don’t have enough, and I don’t do enough.”

Who decides what enough is?

The feelings of insufficiency, incapability, of lack are never going to end. Every time we reach somewhere or achieve something, there is something else to look at.

The biggest and the most important decision of our lives that affect our every other decision is the commitment to love and accept ourselves. It directly affects the quality of our relationships, our work, our faith, our future.