Love

Many a times I have asked myself what exactly Love is?

Recently the penny dropped for me...

Love is Just Being…

It is not a concept, has no boundaries, and has no definition.

When you can look at other creations of life and admire their beauty and them without any judgment and expectation is ‘What Love is...’

Love is when you enjoy being yourself…

Love is when you feel liberated yet bounded with other people…

Love is that tiny spark in you which makes you smile at ALL THAT IS…

All this is Love for me

What it means for you???

Pranayama

Pranayama is generally understood as breath control, it is true partially; as Prana is not intake of breath it is the ‘Life force energy’ in us which flows freely. When this prana can’t flow freely in our body we start manifesting mental, physical emotional issues.

Prana means “Life force energy’ and Ayama means ‘to expand’. Pranayama in true sense means expansion of the vital life force energy. Free flow of this Vital is responsible for our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual growth. Pranayama harmonizes the pranic body,  a network of nerve channels carrying this life force energy to each and every cell and organs of the body. Pranayamas are also preparatory for meditative state.

Follow the pranayama of basic breath awareness and exploration.

Find a comfortable seated position and begin to notice your breath. Without changing it, simply notice the pathway of your breath. How and where does it move? Does it move freely through your nostrils between inhalation and exhalation? Where your breath is moving with ease and where it feels stuck. Begin to gradually deepen your inhalation and extend your exhalation. Go slowly, breath by breath, each one slightly deeper than the one before. Notice how your body changes as your breath changes. What does that feel like in your chest, your side ribs, and the back of your neck, your armpits, and your jaw?

When you feel that your awareness has shifted to a thought, do not get caught up in it and create a story around it. Recognize the thought and bring your awareness back to your breath and its movement, initially you might get lot of thoughts, which is absolutely fine. This practice is to be in the awareness and not allowing your mind to take over you. This practice is to be mindful of your thought processes, their nature, acknowledging them and letting them go.

It is a good idea to introduce Sama Vritti or Equal Breathing now. This means inhaling and exhaling for an equal length. Inhale through your nostrils for four counts and exhale though your nose for four counts. Continue this breathing pattern for as long as you like. You may change the length of your breath to a shorter or longer count. As you practice Sama Vritti (Equal Breathing), continue to observe the quality, movement, and sound of your breath.

You may continue doing this as long as you feel like doing it. Once you are done, slowly and gently open your eyes, first look at your palms, then at your feet. Take few moments before getting into any activity.

Once you get comfortable with your breath awareness, you can start introducing it though the day while doing various activities. Consciously start becoming aware of your breath during various and different kind of activities. Continue observing the quality, movement, and sound of your breath.

This practice is very good for bringing in relaxation and helps alleviate mental chatter. It helps in Insomnia.

Miracle

"What is this LIFE, if not a miracle?"

Isn't it Miracle, that Magic which happened to us?
We come to this earth in such a miraculous way...Conception itself is wonderful and magical.There is so much joy we experience when we see a newborn child :)

We see miracles, magic on a daily basis...Are we ready to recognize them?

The Whole Universe is ever changing, ever evolving, ever trusting to create magic around us.Only if, we ‘pause and listen’ to those sweet encouraging whispers cool breeze brings along.

Only if, we took out some time to look around and appreciated the power of Nature...

Nature does nothing extravagant to be in the flow, it just flows. Just by Being itself Nature brings in so much of balance.

When it comes to our lives, our issues and our sufferings, what do we do? How do we handle it?

We tend to forget that Nature has its own beautiful ways to heal us, clear our issues, mend our ways, harmonize us, balance us...

And it is 'Us' who have created the Dis-harmony! Im-balance! in our own systems and around us.

Why do we do that?

·        We do it because we don't want to change.. It would be nice if others changed for us.

·        We don't want to evolve yet others should evolve.

·        We don't trust the very nature that brought us into this life.

·        We get into the whole cycle of blaming, brooding, sulking, demanding.

Let’s take a pause and few questions to ask ourselves...

·        What more can we do to make our life better??

·        What is it that we can do to make our journey smoother?

·      What more can be done to trust? 

Drop the judgment

Always remember when you criticize something or someone you are actually criticize a part of your own being as you will only recognize that part of the other which resonates with you energetically.

To understand this in a simple language, Say you speak German and the person you are interacting with speaks French. Would you be able to understand what the other saying?

No, Right!!

Similarly your energy structure has a language and it will only recognize what it speaks within. So whenever you have a negative emotion coming up for someone, look within where it is arising from? Which parts of you, you don’t accept? Which part of you feels jealous/ upset/ irritated/ angry with the other?

If you feel jealous of the other does it mean that you don’t have enough? Or does it mean Life is not fair to you? Does it make you sad/ upset?

If you feel angry with the other then what exactly made you angry? Remember anger is not an emotion by itself it is an after effect of deep hurt. Which part of you got so hurt that it resulted in an outburst? What made you hurt?

Reflect on your behavior by the end of the day.

Did it go the way you planned it to be?

Were you able to keep yourself positive and upbeat through the day?

If not, then what made you upset? Which part of you didn’t feel, complete and fulfilled? Stay with the thought and you will start understanding your deeper emotions slowly.

Ask and you will receive

"Ask and you will receive" JESUS

How many of us understood what it meant. I didn’t. I always believed why I need to tell him what I wish to have in my life, or what I desire in life.
This belief came crumbling down when I started understanding 'The Law of attraction"

How on this earth was I going to get what I wish to have in my life when deep down in me I always felt ‘I don't deserve it.’

If my core belief was of undeserving then my energy structure also gave similar signals. I would feel uncomfortable asking for money. My fee which was rightfully mine, I spent time with my clients, my valuable time that I could have spent with my child, family. It was an issue to charge for my sessions as I felt undeserving, and other people’s needs were more important than mine.

Whenever you ask for something and it has not been given to you, look within. Do you really have conviction of what you are asking for; are you absolutely worthy of getting it? 
What is your belief system related to it?

Is earning money an issue? 
Money brings in responsibilities. Money takes away humility. Money brings in power and many can't handle that power. 
All these are belief systems that we have been carrying for long, either we saw something we didn't like and our subconscious registered or we had our own experiences which created these beliefs in us.

Does a relationship mean a burden, deep within? Does a relationship mean that you will lose your identity? Or you will not have your freedom with you? Would you feel obliged to look at other person’s need over yours?

What is it that is your core belief related to that particular issue you are facing at the moment?

If you can identify it, with awareness you can bring in the shift in your perception and look at it in a new light. Once your perception has shifted, you can bring in the much needed change in your reality as well. Your energy structure will now start vibrating at a level where you can attract whatever you wish to. Once there is an alignment between your core belief and what you are asking for, it shall be given to you. When you are giving out mixed signals even the DIVINE is confused what to give you. And mostly HE will give you is what your energy structure is vibrating at, what you believe at core level.

Love yourself first in order to love others

Most of us have grown up thinking and believing it is too selfish to think of oneself before others. Here I am saying otherwise. 

What does it mean? 

How could I possibly say that when our culture, our society teaches us to be selfless?

Our decision are based on several factors, starting from our family, to the cultural values, appreciation by society

I grew up with a feeling of being insufficient, incompetent. I have been working on it for a while now; sometimes it still gets on my new way of thinking. Earlier, it was really difficult for me to say no to others or even express it to people that I have some other work to do. It all came from my inability to prioritize myself and my things.

I always felt the other person’s work is more important than mine. My work can be done later. How can I be so rude and tell them that I won’t be able to attend them at the moment as I am busy attending myself.

When you look at it minutely I had people pleasing personality. I wanted them to like me, love me, accept me. What a dichotomy!!! On one hand I was neglecting, rejecting myself & my needs; on the other hand I was expecting others to accept me J

Why would I do that?? What made me neglect my own self?

It all came from a feeling that I am not good enough, if I am not good enough I have to that extra mile to make up for that lesser me.

We are taught right from the beginning that we are worthy and accepted only if we fulfill the norms created by our culture and society. Our worth is decided by the money, power, attractiveness, status, sex, relationships.

If we connect our self worth on these external factors we will never feel complete or worthy enough. The critic in us will keep us engaged in thoughts such as “I am not enough, I don’t have enough, and I don’t do enough.”

Who decides what enough is?

The feelings of insufficiency, incapability, of lack are never going to end. Every time we reach somewhere or achieve something, there is something else to look at.

The biggest and the most important decision of our lives that affect our every other decision is the commitment to love and accept ourselves. It directly affects the quality of our relationships, our work, our faith, our future.